This is a good question. It is definitely not the norm. In the past, most mothers have had custody of their children. I have noticed that this is changing, not only in my immediate relationship, but I have been seeing a real trend.
When Babe’s Ex gave him the children, he was so happy about not having to put up a fight that he told her that he would not ask her for any money, but she had to watch the kids on Saturday s because he and I work 6 days a week.
Well she didn’t show up for 3 months after that. That is pretty much the way it went and now it has been 2.5 years
She agreed to pay us money weekly about 2 months ago, but Babe feels bad about it. We do need the money, but it seems like we spend more energy than it is worth trying to collect. Baby sitting sometime would even be nice.
Babe gets hurt by it. He just wants her to be a mom for the kids. Thinking that they may grow up thinking that they were not good enough for her makes it hard to breath. However, if she is only going to show up infrequently and act like they are the last thing on her mind, it would be better for her to just stop coming all together. If she would sign over all rights, she wouldn’t have to pay anything. At least that way we could tell them she moved far away. It may hurt them less.
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