A different sort of Halloween

I took the boys to a festival.

 

It was great.  They had all sorts of things for them to do:

 

1. Trick or Treating (of course) at tents and businesses.
2. Bounce houses and slides
3. A wizard who looked oddly like the mall Santa (he is a really good Santa and a wizard for that matter, real beard and all).
4. characters to take pics with (tall scarecrow, Darth Vader, etc)
5. There was a carnival type area too, but it was EXPENSIVE!

 

There were all sorts of people in costumes; these two toddlers were dressed as McCain and Obama (it was priceless).  I really liked it!  I think I will take them there every year.  It was definitely better than the boring old walk around the neighborhood and had the added bonus that they were having so much fun that they did not get that much candy!

New Park!

I am sitting at this new park I found. It is great the boys have a lake to swim in or the can play on the playground or there is a miny water park for $1 a person! This is great I am so happy about our move!
But why do boys play in the weeds.  I was a tomboy with the best of them, but I hate late weeds....They hoped in them looked for minoes....It was gross, but I felt peer pressured in to wading in with them.  It is sad that I feel peer pressured by my boys.  I haven't quite decided if that means I still have a childs spirit or it I am one of those pathetic parents who just wants their kids to think they are cool.  Oh, well I guess I should get use to gross stuff.....except bugs...yuck!

My Pseudo In-laws

Fortunately, for many of you out there you only have one set of in-laws. I have two, my pseudo in-laws, Babe’s parents, and my SUPER pseudo in-laws the boys other grandparents.

This is difficult, Babe’s parents are ok they do not try and butt in much, except they want us to be married and mention it every time we see or talk to them. And Babe’s mom was like super woman, working and keeping the house spotless and a good cook to boot. It is a lot to live up to and I am no where close.

The mom’s mom, however, always makes me feel that nothing is good enough. We were late to one of the 2 baseball games that she attended and she said “if I were the coach I wouldn’t let them play, it’s not fair to the other kids” Geez Louise, it was t-ball. Maybe I am being unfair everyone should be able to take some criticisms and she does give good advice, but she was able to stay home with her daughters and didn’t have to rush home from work throw on uniforms and run out the door! Also, it is hard for me to take parenting criticisms from some one who raised the boys’ selfish brat of a mother (oops I have to stop that).

Is it too much to asked to be contacted a week in advance if they want to pick up the boys (their mother and grandparents are guilty of this)? We never get an email before Friday and we never get a call period for them to get them on one of the weekend days. Never overnight mind you neither their mother nor grandmother wants them for that long, their mother will do it but only when we ask and then beg, which isn’t often.

Wow! I went off on a tangent, well back to the 2 sets of in-laws thing. It is difficult; both sets seem to call me although that has been changing lately since I stopped answering the phone. I like chatting, but I always feel fake. You know even when I am having a bad day I don’t like to worry Babe’s mom and I just want the mommy’s mommy to think all is perfect and heavenly. I noticed that Babe does the same thing though. Well I hope that you never have to impress 2 sets of in-laws, it is exhausting. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.

Baseball??

I missed the boys' first t-ball games!  I had good reason, one of my bestests got married today.  The wedding was beautiful and I wouldn't have missed it for the world, still part of me wishes I had magic powers (2 places at once, time travel, ya know whatever).  That is one thing I didn't realize I needed as a pseudo stepmom, super powers.  The other thing, I mean, that I didn't realise you needed was money.  But what can you do I fell in love with 3 guys at once!  Now I now how playas feel....I'm barrrrroke.   But don't they look cute in their uniforms....Awwwwww.

Yucky Words!!

So, Sugar was in major trouble at school today. He used “POTTY” language. There was this little girl and she might have said that he asked her to do something to him (the first thing to pop into your head is probably right). Well, I was shocked!! We let the s*** word slip sometimes, but he has never heard THAT out of his father’s (Babe) mouth or mine for that matter, but I lack the proper anatomy. He told us that all he said was pee pee and he can’t remember the context in which he said it. I believe him, simply because he has never said that word and actually never uses bad language (more than poop, pee pee, or fart).
The one thing he had against him is that his brother said the girl was telling the truth…when telling the teacher and the girl was around. I asked him exactly what his brother said and he told me he wasn’t sure, but that he did not say what the girl said. Little girls are already getting between them, huh. I’m really worried!!
For those of you that do not believe that this little girl would lie to get someone in trouble, all I have to say is that you do not know little girls very well!!

Oh yeah and after the Asst. Principal found out I was not the mother. She said, “I am uncomfortable talking to you about this, are you even in the paper work” in a snotty way. I said, “I’m sure I am. I did fill it out.” I know she had a right to be concerned and most of the time the Dad’s girlfriend is not the central female figure in children’s lives, but I still hate the fact that she would give their “REAL” mother more consideration. Then I realized I should have simply said I am his Pseudo Mom and that would have solved everything!

Christmas crazyness

We went to visit Babe’s parents for Christmas.  They live in another state and it was so beautiful.  I was hoping that the boys would see snow, but it didn’t happen.  There where hills and the leaves were red, gold, yellow, and orange.  It was exciting although my pseudo father in-law preached to me about how we were never going to get financially stable until we became right with God!

 

He means {da da duuuuun} God won’t bless us unless we are married.  Humf, I understand his issue, but I could have done with out the hour long lecture on how his boys were raised and so on etcetera.

 

Is it really that big a deal…I know God loves me and is grateful that I am in the boys’ lives, besides Babe’s Mom was pregnant when they got married, just like the boys’ mother.  Not to be conceded but if anyone is a bad influence on the boys it is not me!

 

The worse part was Babe kept walking around the house and then he went to bed.  I counld not have been more obvious with the “save me eyes”!!

 

The trip was fun though, they live in a rural area and the boy’s got to go on a hike with their dad and meet and meet their distant cousins and great aunts and uncles.  Babe hadn’t even seen that side of his family in years.  All in all it was a good trip.  The boys were even good on the two 10 hour car rides.

Ahhhh...a night out

Babe and I got a much needed night out!  The M-Word watched the boys overnight and Babe and I went to a Halloween Concert and stayed at a hotel next door so we could drink and not drive home!  Oh and drink we did, we got lost walking back to the hotel…oops.  It was so much fun, but Babe did have to work the next day….he was sleepy.

 

I do not think that we have had a night out in a year and we never go out together.  Babe is kinda a homebody, but he has never minded me going out.  Still I don’t get the chance much with my lack of funds.  I’m really not much of a partier (not like I use to be).

 

I actually like that he does not want to go out with me.  I think nights out together all the time lead to arguments and suffocating.  We are happy to be together or apart and I think that is why we have lasted.  I hate it when a guy wants to hang around all the time, I get nauseous that way.