My Pseudo In-laws

Fortunately, for many of you out there you only have one set of in-laws. I have two, my pseudo in-laws, Babe’s parents, and my SUPER pseudo in-laws the boys other grandparents.

This is difficult, Babe’s parents are ok they do not try and butt in much, except they want us to be married and mention it every time we see or talk to them. And Babe’s mom was like super woman, working and keeping the house spotless and a good cook to boot. It is a lot to live up to and I am no where close.

The mom’s mom, however, always makes me feel that nothing is good enough. We were late to one of the 2 baseball games that she attended and she said “if I were the coach I wouldn’t let them play, it’s not fair to the other kids” Geez Louise, it was t-ball. Maybe I am being unfair everyone should be able to take some criticisms and she does give good advice, but she was able to stay home with her daughters and didn’t have to rush home from work throw on uniforms and run out the door! Also, it is hard for me to take parenting criticisms from some one who raised the boys’ selfish brat of a mother (oops I have to stop that).

Is it too much to asked to be contacted a week in advance if they want to pick up the boys (their mother and grandparents are guilty of this)? We never get an email before Friday and we never get a call period for them to get them on one of the weekend days. Never overnight mind you neither their mother nor grandmother wants them for that long, their mother will do it but only when we ask and then beg, which isn’t often.

Wow! I went off on a tangent, well back to the 2 sets of in-laws thing. It is difficult; both sets seem to call me although that has been changing lately since I stopped answering the phone. I like chatting, but I always feel fake. You know even when I am having a bad day I don’t like to worry Babe’s mom and I just want the mommy’s mommy to think all is perfect and heavenly. I noticed that Babe does the same thing though. Well I hope that you never have to impress 2 sets of in-laws, it is exhausting. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.

Christmas crazyness

We went to visit Babe’s parents for Christmas.  They live in another state and it was so beautiful.  I was hoping that the boys would see snow, but it didn’t happen.  There where hills and the leaves were red, gold, yellow, and orange.  It was exciting although my pseudo father in-law preached to me about how we were never going to get financially stable until we became right with God!

 

He means {da da duuuuun} God won’t bless us unless we are married.  Humf, I understand his issue, but I could have done with out the hour long lecture on how his boys were raised and so on etcetera.

 

Is it really that big a deal…I know God loves me and is grateful that I am in the boys’ lives, besides Babe’s Mom was pregnant when they got married, just like the boys’ mother.  Not to be conceded but if anyone is a bad influence on the boys it is not me!

 

The worse part was Babe kept walking around the house and then he went to bed.  I counld not have been more obvious with the “save me eyes”!!

 

The trip was fun though, they live in a rural area and the boy’s got to go on a hike with their dad and meet and meet their distant cousins and great aunts and uncles.  Babe hadn’t even seen that side of his family in years.  All in all it was a good trip.  The boys were even good on the two 10 hour car rides.