Well, we’ll be drinking

I was trying to make plans for New Years Eve.  We'd had the boys for the last 3 years and although it is always fun to keep kids up past their bedtime and scream at midnight, so on and so forth, I emailed the M-Word to see if she could take a break from her busy schedule to take the boys.

She ignored it.

This in mind, I new that my sister would be having a get together, so I called her up.  I asked her if it would be kid friendly and she informed me that she would have to talk to Beer Delivery Guy (her wonderful fiancé).

When I talked to her again, I was told that Beer Delivery Guy felt that since there would be drinking it would not be a good idea.

This would not be a big deal, but that was the same reason he had for not letting the boys come to their house warming party.

My sister does not drink and Beer Delivery Guy is not an alcoholic, but he is a social drinker (the guy has a kegerator in the kitchen).  All get-togethers at their house involve drinking, which is fine.  None of the adults get belligerent, they don't start falling down, or any other thing children should be shielded from.

I guess I am just a little hurt, because I want the boys to have a relationship with my sister.  I always loved my hip young aunt (my sister is not hip, but really neither was my aunt).

I just know that my sister is like me the more the merrier no matter what their age; I am really trying to not be mad at Beer Delivery Guy.  He is a great person, but come on you are going to be their uncle soon!

P.S. I understand that I am being slightly unreasonable but I don't care!!!

I didn't mean everyone...just her

As I said in previous posts, I posted about the M-Words new assets on the forum Childlessstepmoms.org.

I got great replies. They all made me feel better and less bitter about the situation, but I guess my tongue was still a little jagged.

I gave one Childless Stepmom the impression that I was making fun of her for the boob job itself. This is not true, I believe that any woman can improve upon anything they see fit, and I may even partake someday.

My actual issue is with her priorities. At the time that she had this surgery, she’d been complaining about not being able to afford Christmas, that she was 2 months behind on her rent and that she really wants to get the divorce settled (which she has agreed that if we agree to everything in advance she will pay for).

I just do not think that spending or even having your parents spend that kind of money is very responsible. She has no sense of right and wrong when it comes to the boys. I just wish that she would put up or shut up! The shut up would be nice. I know the boys need to know that she cares, but if she’s not going to show them poo on her.

She actually said that she only wanted them on Christmas for a short period, because she would still be resting from her surgery (before we knew what it was). Well anyway, I have no issues with anyone who chooses to have breast implants and I do not believe that it makes a woman an airhead or bimbo. I just can’t believe her tactless timing!

Christmas Day

Children at Christmas time are so wonderful.  They smile all day, fight over toys, tell you this is the best Christmas ever 20 times, basically they make it all worth it!

They may cry or say the wrong thing when they open the present that is just not right, but even the rudest kids can make you smile on Christmas.

It is days like today that make me wonder what ny life would be like if it weren’t for Babe and the Babies coming into my life.

I had a great Christmas.  The boys ended up cleaning up; Babe and I couldn’t get them much, but they got great gifts from everyone else!

We got them a few things and then of course we had a Special Angel, that sent us a PSP (THE gift this Christmas), so Santa did a good job also!

They boys even got to see the M-Word, they got some great gifts from her loaded parents, as did she I hope.  I confirmed the bOObs today.  Hopefully, her parents paid for it, I would hate to think that her mind was really that shallow.  She complains about being two months behind on her rent and how she can’t afford any childsupport.

Well I am not letting her rain on my parade…she’s not the one that got 5 “I love you hugs” before bed!

It's beginning to feel a lot like Christmas.

There are great people in this world!

I joined a forum specifically dedicated to childless stepmoms.

I added a topic about my situation with not being able to afford Christmas and the m-word getting a boob job (maybe?).  I wasn’t asking for anything, just writing out my thoughts, to see what others thought about my situation.

Well, I got a reply from another childless stepmom like me, offering me her PSP!!!!!!

All she wanted in return was to be updated on the boob job stuff.  So we could laugh and roll our eyes J.  I am so freaking astonished…there truly are great people in this wild selfish world!

I love this site and I love these women!  It was so great that I found women in similar situations as I am.  It is so great to know that others have to deal with the same crap that I do ( that sound sadistic); rephrase: 

I am just glad to have people that understand what I am going through.

Who wants to bet?

I haven't written in a while, but I have been busy with school and work and life.

So, the m-word has a surgery this Friday.

Last year about this time, she had a hysterectomy.  I am kinda wondering what other surgeries a 27-year-old woman would have.  I know that there are plenty, but she told us she was having a hysterectomy.  This one she just said surgery and when I played concerned (really just being nosey) she just said it was nothing to be concerned about.

Babe and I are betting on a boob job.  According to Babe, it is something that she has always wanted.  I actually believe it…she has always chosen #1 over the babies.  She always has her nails done and her hair done and so on and so on.

I really think it is funny, but I am just annoyed today, because we had to tell the boys that daddy and I could not get them anything for Christmas.  We are spent all of the money we had, plus (we bounced a check, not on purpose, but it happened) on one PSP (they will have to share).  That is what they really wanted, but it will be from Santa.  I would rather them know Babe and I are broke than Santa decided not to show up.  They will get stuff from the m-word, my parents, and their 2 sets of grand parents, but I hate that they will not wake up with a bunch of stuff on Christmas.