To hold back or not to hold back?

The baby, Teddy Bear, is below grade level in KINDERGARTEN. He is very young for the grade whereas his

big brother is one of the oldest. We are seriously considering holding him back.


I am worried how it will hurt his self-esteem. My sister was one of the youngest kids in her class also and she struggled through elementary school. She of course turned out , but with his

already low self-esteem, he may be better off being one of the SMARTEST kids in class by being held back.

I the little guy and I feel that this is a huge decision. It may affect the rest of his life!

the boys first day

so, it was the boys first day of kindergarten.  i never understood why this was such a big deal.

WELL NOW I KNOW.

this morning was the most gut wrenching experience i have ever had.  so many thoughts went through my head.

“ARE THE GOING TO BE OK”

“WILL THEY BE POPULAR”

“WILL THEY BE PICKED ON”

“WILL THEY BEHAVE”

“HAVE I PREPARED THEM”

“PLEASE LET THEM REMEMBER THEIR ABC’S”

“PLEASE DON’T LET THEM HAVE ANY ACCIDENTS”

“CAN THEY HANDLE THIS”

“CAN I HANDLE THIS”

no phone calls so far, but what if they are just mildly freaking out so the teachers don’t want to worry me.  i miss them even though i do not normally see them now anyway.  i want to be there holding their hands.  the babies have been in the same class since teddy bear was 4.  we were asked if we wanted them in the same class, but for the poor teacher's sake we said no.  i wish we could have given them a trial period.  i am sad that they are alone.