Venting

I guess that the boys’ mother has decided that she actually wants to be a mother to be a mother… kinda.  She took them for like three hrs last weekend and wrote them an email.  She told Sugar Bear that she would start seeing them more often but we have not heard from her since.  I know that she will still only see them every two weeks if that, but I hate that she is going to disappoint them.

We got into an argument with her about the fact that she has plenty of money for herself to have fun and party (get her hair done, go to clubs, buy her daughter a water slide for her birthday).  She says that we want her daughter to starve so she can pay us.  Well we told her that we would write off her child support up to this point if she would pay for the divorce.  She is engaged although Sugar and she are still married of course, she wanted to marry her 18-year-old boyfriend 5 months after they started dating.   I am assuming that she is the type who wants to marry everyone she dates until they start treating her nicely.  Well I guess that is the only venting I will get to do, because we promised that we would no longer criticize her as long as she starts being a mother.  So let me say I realize if I were on her side guess I might blame it on Sugar…but I know Sugar and I know that if he had the boys then he would see them more than once a week and pay her all the child support she asked for as he did before they came to live with him.  In fact he saw them at least e3 times a week during the time that we were dating before she gave the boys to Sugar.

Ok so I am done…wait…She is a stupid selfish bitch…ok I am done!

Should women pay child support?

This is a good question. It is definitely not the norm. In the past, most mothers have had custody of their children. I have noticed that this is changing, not only in my immediate relationship, but I have been seeing a real trend.

When Babe’s Ex gave him the children, he was so happy about not having to put up a fight that he told her that he would not ask her for any money, but she had to watch the kids on Saturday s because he and I work 6 days a week.

Well she didn’t show up for 3 months after that. That is pretty much the way it went and now it has been 2.5 years

She agreed to pay us money weekly about 2 months ago, but Babe feels bad about it. We do need the money, but it seems like we spend more energy than it is worth trying to collect. Baby sitting sometime would even be nice.

Babe gets hurt by it. He just wants her to be a mom for the kids. Thinking that they may grow up thinking that they were not good enough for her makes it hard to breath. However, if she is only going to show up infrequently and act like they are the last thing on her mind, it would be better for her to just stop coming all together. If she would sign over all rights, she wouldn’t have to pay anything. At least that way we could tell them she moved far away. It may hurt them less.